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Monday, May 10, 2010
how do you process grief?

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Grief is a highly personal response to life losses. Every relationship we have with a person is unique, irreplaceable, and unrepeatable. Since our relationships are unique, our grief is unique, too.


A husband and wife will each grieve differently when a child dies. Each member of a family will mourn the death of a parent differently.


There are no road maps, no blueprints for grief. After his wife died, C.S. Lewis, in A Grief Observed, set out to devise such a road map. He gave up the attempt.


It is always a mistake to judge how another person is expressing grief.


“He doesn’t show enough emotion.”

“She is just overreacting, crying all the time.”

“He just carries on as if nothing has happened.”


Instead of judging, we must be very patient and accept the uniqueness of ever individual’s grief process, including our own.


Excerpt from Grief’s Courageous Journey: A Workbook by Sandi Caplan and Gordon Lang.
Posted By / 9:00 AM / Monday, May 10, 2010
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comment By Kim @ Monday, May 10, 2010 10:50 AM
An important subject. I agree grief is personal -- individual, yet a process that is also universal. I also feel that how each individual reacts to loss will depend on how well they’ve handled other life crises.
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