Good long-term relationship partners have many of these traits. You can probably think of others that have special significance for you or your partner. The following short quiz will help you evaluate where you stand now on these fifteen.

The quiz is comprised of one summary question for each of the fifteen traits. Answer each question with a number corresponding to the following guide:

Most of the time = 5

Some of the time = 4

Occasionally = 3

Not often = 2

Never = 1

Trait One - Accountability

Do you take responsibility for the decisions you make and the behaviors they cause?____

Trait Two - Rhythm

Are you comfortable with your personal rhythm and how you blend with those of others?___

Trait Three - Interest

Do you actively help to make each situation interesting?___

Trait Four - Humor

Do you help people to see the sunny side of life when it's appropriate?___

Trait Five - Evenness

Can you stay centered under stress?___

Trait Six -Guilt

Have you let go of worrying about mistakes?___

Trait Seven -Storing Good Times

Do you remember to keep a cache of meaningful experiences?___

Trait Eight - Authenticity

Can you be trusted by others to be honest about what you believe?___

Trait Nine - Marketability

Are you realistic about your value to others?___

Trait Ten - Valuing Others

Do you treasure the people you're with?___

Trait Eleven - Staying Focused on what is important

Do you avoid getting caught up in useless energy drains?___

Trait Twelve - Self-soothing

Can you calm yourself when stressed?___

Trait Thirteen - Transformation

Are you committed and open to seeing things in new ways?___

Trait Fourteen - Self-Care

Are you taking good care of yourself?___

Trait Fifteen - Being Present

Are you treasuring your present moments?___

Add up your scores. The total will end up somewhere between 15 and 75. The higher your score, the more you are a Keeper.

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Randi Gunther, PhD is the author of When Love Stumbles and Relationship Saboteurs.