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Tuesday, January 17, 2012
'cougars?' how about 'sought after mature women?'

:: 0 Comments :: Article Rating :: women, relationships, mid-life, guest blogger 		 

The media hype about older women seeking out young men for sexual contact has about worn me down. As a relationship therapist for four decades, I have certainly defended many unfairly labeled "dirty old men," who were just guys who fell in love with younger women for their beauty, energy, and potential for having children. Many of my older male patients have wanted to start families again and have created great second marriages.


Now I have a whole new group of valuable people to defend. In the past several years, I've had the pleasure of working with older women in relationships with often much younger men. They are not the "older women who frequent clubs to score sexually with younger men," as the new, and unfair definition is of "Cougars." They are quality, mature women who have been actively sought after by younger men for long-term, committed relationships. Yes, sex is an important part of their relationship, but there is so much more.


Currently, I am working with five couples where the women are five to eighteen years older than their male partners. All of them are in committed relationships. They come into therapy to work on typical issues that all couples face, but also on the challenges that they receive regularly from the outside. Society still has deep prejudices against older women with younger men, unfairly non-reciprocal when the genders are reversed.


Read the rest of the blog piece on Huffington Post


Randi Gunther, PhD is the author of Relationship Saboteurs and When Love Stumbles.
Posted By nhpblog / 12:32 PM / Tuesday, January 17, 2012
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