The Mindful Path through Shyness
How Mindfulness and Compassion Can Help Free You from Social Anxiety, Fear, and Avoidance
Published by: New Harbinger Publications
Imprint: New Harbinger Publications
Shyness often helps protect us from the judgments and resentments of others, but once you get in the habit of avoiding social situations, you can become stuck in a cycle of avoidance that can be difficult to escape. Ready to let go of shyness and make stronger connections with others? The Mindful Path Through Shyness shows you how.
This guide uses techniques from mindfulness-based stress reduction and cognitive behavioral therapy to help you cultivate awareness of your own thoughts so that you can act with more wisdom and compassion toward yourself. Over time, you will be able to free yourself of the old mental habits of self-consciousness and self-blame, and replace them with new habits that foster confidence and joy.
A heartfelt and practical guide to… transforming one's relationship to social fears and inhibitions.
-Zindel V. Segal, Ph.D., author of The Mindful Way Through Depression
"A heartfelt and practical guide to the application of mindfulness for approaching, resting within, and ultimately transforming one’s relationship to social fears and inhibitions."
—Zindel V. Segal, PhD, author of The Mindful Way Through Depression
"Steve Flowers has written a warm, accessible, funny, and practical book to help people use mindfulness to reduce problematic shyness. With great good humor, he also shares personal experiences, challenges, and insights that helped him overcome his own shyness. His book is a valuable contribution to the self-help literature on shyness, revealing how shyness is adaptive, how it can turn into a barrier to achieving your goals, and how it can become another passing experience that you can notice, accept, and then let go, so that it doesn’t diminish your quality of life."
—Lynne Henderson, PhD, faculty member at Stanford University
"The Mindful Path Through Shyness draws on transformative meditations and psychological wisdom. The anecdotes and guided practices provide a wonderful support, not only for those who suffer from anxiety, but for all who wish to live an openhearted and mindful life."
—Tara Brach, PhD, author of Radical Acceptance
"The Mindful Path Through Shyness is a generous offering of the powerful and practical tools of mindfulness practice, specifically geared to the situation of those who are living with debilitating shyness and social anxiety disorder."
—Sharon Salzberg, author of Lovingkindness
"Reader, in your hands is a beautifully crafted elucidation of the healing power of mindfulness for catalyzing a powerful, positive shift in your relationship to shyness and social anxiety. Clear, kind, and wise, it is a true call to remember the fullness that we are behind our symptoms and suffering. Eminently practical, the use of metaphor is striking and revelatory. Here’s one: ‘If shyness is a wilderness, mindfulness is your compass.’ Steve Flowers has walked in this wilderness; he has found the trail. With tremendous care and attention, he shows us a way through."
—Saki F. Santorelli, EdD, MA, associate professor of medicine at the University of Massachusetts Medical School and author of Heal Thyself
"Shyness is more than a social inconvenience. It can be a debilitating process that keeps us from making the intimate connections with others that is biologically and psychologically necessary for our well-being. Steve Flowers uses his considerable skill and wisdom to illuminate this dilemma with the light of mindfulness practice. He presents compassionate insight and practical guidance that gently lead us into an authentic ease and confidence in our social surroundings."
—William Martin, author of The Parent’s Tao Te Ching