Before you succeed at parenting, you need to succeed as a couple! Baby Bomb is the resource you need when a new baby turns your life—and your romantic relationship—upside down.
A baby is a blessing—and also a completely life-altering event. If you’re like many new parents, nothing could have fully prepared you for the exhaustion of late-night feedings, the explosive diapers, the evaporation of your free time, the pure joy, and the moments of pure terror. In the midst of these hazy, early months, it’s normal to feel overwhelmed. And when you’re overwhelmed, it’s easy to put your romantic relationship on the back burner. But, more and more, research shows that in order to be the best parents you can be, you and your partner need to make sure that your needs—as a couple—are also met.
Written by a psychologist and relationship expert, Baby Bomb offers powerful tools based in psychology and neurobiology to help you and your partner co-parent and co-partner as a solid and supportive team—while also cultivating mad love for each other! You’ll find more than just “tips” for better parenting and partnering; you’ll discover how a secure-functioning relationship is essential for raising happy, healthy kids.
This isn’t a book with advice about how to have a romantic candlelit dinner while your baby is screaming in the other room. It’s a road map for getting on the same page about your expectations as parents, about your needs as humans, and about how to maintain a strong and lasting relationship in the face of, well, a baby bomb.
“Baby Bomb is a wise, entertaining, and compassionate relationship survival guide for new and expectant parents.... Emphasizing communication, mutual respect, and teamwork, Baby Bomb demonstrates that effective parenting begins with effective partnering. This engaging, insightful guide will be transformational reading for new and expectant parents.”~Foreword Reviews
“Vivid and emotionally spot-on. Baby Bomb doesn’t miss a beat in giving you helpful tools, examples, and dialogue right from the first chapter. This book tackles the pervasive problem of traditional gender roles in parenting, elevates the conversation, and challenges us to think deeper about nurturing our partner relationships after baby comes along.”~Heather Turgeon
—Heather Turgeon, psychotherapist, and author of The Happy Sleeper
“‘The couple comes first.’ Strange how radical these words seem, but also how right. Baby Bomb insists—and gives parents concrete ways to remember—that their health and partnership is never any less important than their baby. This book is a breath of fresh air that helps lighten even the hardest days of early parenting.”~Angela Garbes
—Angela Garbes, author of Like a Mother
“After the birth of a baby, the relationship of the parents is often left untended, like a fallow field. Baby Bomb is the guide you need to help return nutrients to the soil of your relationship, plant seeds of new growth, and celebrate the bounty of your relationship for years to come.”~Britta Bushnell, PhD
—Britta Bushnell, PhD, childbirth and new-parent specialist, and author of Transformed by Birth
“Buy this book now. Give Baby Bomb to every expectant couple you know. It is an indispensable guide for all new parents and pregnant couples. There is none other like it. It will nourish the couple; teach them how to care for one another, make collaborative decisions, and flourish as a strong team.”~Ellyn Bader, PhD
—Ellyn Bader, PhD, cofounder The Couples Institute, creator of the Developmental Model of Couples Therapy, and coauthor of Tell Me No Lies
“Baby Bomb is a gift for young couples. The principles of attachment theory and nervous system regulation are the basic elements of ‘Parenting 101.’ And Kara’s fresh voice of experience explaining how to apply those principles is the bow on top.”~Diane Poole Heller, PhD
—Diane Poole Heller, PhD, creator of the Dynamic Attachment Re-Patterning experience (DARe), president of Trauma Solutions, and author of Healing Your Attachment Wounds and The Power of Attachment
“The inevitable clash of competing loyalties that come with being a partner, a parent, and yourself can be painful when they’re out of balance. With exceptionally incisive insight, Kara and Stan help you map confusing emotional experiences. For thirty-five years, I worked as a psychologist supporting and helping couples through their toughest times. I wish I had this book all along. I’m glad I have it now.”~Peter Pearson, PhD
—Peter Pearson, PhD, cofounder The Couples Institute, and coauthor of Tell Me No Lies
“I was moved by the powerful insights in this book, which teaches couples how to integrate partnership and parenting. Kara and Stan shift the old paradigm—whereby mothers are the ones primarily responsible for raising a securely attached child—to a new paradigm in which secure-functioning couples do that together, and do so more effectively. Partnering according to these principles gives birth to a vast transformation through which both partners and their child grow. I encourage therapists and doctors to get more than one copy of this book to share with every couple who is expecting.”~Nilufer Devecigil
—Nilufer Devecigil, therapist, and author of Işığın Yolu
“There is a saying that the best thing you can do for your children is to have a great relationship with each other. Baby Bomb is a manual for making that happen. Every parent-to-be should read it, and everyone who is already a parent should read it. Your children will thrive, if you do.”~Harville Hendrix, PhD, and Helen LaKelly Hunt, PhD
—Harville Hendrix, PhD, and Helen LaKelly Hunt, PhD, coauthors of Giving the Love That Heals