Sh*t I Say to Myself
40 Ways to Ditch the Negative Self-Talk That’s Dragging You Down
Published by: New Harbinger Publications
Imprint: New Harbinger Publications
It’s time to break up with your toxic mind.
Have you ever had thoughts that drag you down, rather than lift you up? Thoughts that make you feel hopeless and stuck? You’re far from alone. Many people struggle with negative thoughts about themselves—and the world. But if your unrepentant ruminations are getting in the way of living your life, it’s time to tell your toxic mind to cut the crap. It’s time to stand up to your inner critic. And it’s time to show negative thoughts the door—once and for all.
Written by a psychotherapist and grounded in proven-effective mindfulness and cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), the irreverent, no-nonsense approach in this snarky—yet hopeful—guide will help you “ghost” your negative thoughts, put an end to toxic self-talk, and start living like a badass, with all the positivity and confidence needed to reach your goals.
Over time, negative self-talk can lead to more than just a pessimistic outlook on life. It can destroy your confidence; damage your relationships; and lead to anxiety, depression, and a host of other mental health conditions. It’s time to say, enough! This little book will give you the tools—and the courage—you need to tell your toxic mind to f*ck off for good.
“Sh*t just got real! Katie Krimer expertly cuts through the BS with authentically practical strategies to tame the inner assh*le living in all of our heads.”~Jodie Eckleberry-Hunt, PhD, ABPP
—Jodie Eckleberry-Hunt, PhD, ABPP, author of Move on Motherf*cker and Getting to Good Riddance
“One occupational hazard of being a psychotherapist is to rely too heavily on the question of ‘Why?’ Katie Krimer points out how our thoughts, among the most ephemeral of all phenomena, have a disproportionate gravitational pull on our experience of ourselves in the world. She offers alternative and practical suggestions to chip away at these persistent, limiting, and destructive thoughts, mercifully delivered in an easy-to-swallow manner. (I just wish I knew what sh*t meant…).”~Paul R. Fulton, EdD
—Paul R. Fulton, EdD, director of the certificate program in mindfulness and psychotherapy at the Institute for Meditation and Psychotherapy, part-time faculty in the department of psychiatry at Harvard University, and coeditor of Mindfulness and Psychotherapy
“As a coach to high performers on the stage, screen, NFL, and MLB, I am no stranger to the ways in which we talk to ourselves impacts our well-being and success. This book is a glowing resource for helping all of us deal with that not-so-little voice in our heads. Not only does it lay out clear, proven strategies for adaptive self-talk, it also entertains with compelling stories and funny yet pithy artwork! Whether you are working on a specific goal or simply working to find more happiness and peace in a stressful world, this book is for you!”~Jonathan Fader
—Jonathan Fader, motivational interviewing trainer part of the Motivational Interviewing Network of Trainers (MINT), coauthor of Coaching Athletes to Be Their Best, and author of Life as Sport
“Negative self-talk can be a really f*ing hard habit to break. Luckily for all of us, Katie Krimer’s book, Sh*t I Say to Myself, does an amazing job of laying out super-common, unhelpful thoughts and walking us through the best ways to respond and reframe them. I want her to be my therapist! Instead, I’ll settle for the next best thing: this sharp, funny, sassy, practical book.”~Kelsey Torgerson Dunn, MSW, LCSW
—Kelsey Torgerson Dunn, MSW, LCSW, adolescent anxiety specialist, founder of Compassionate Counseling St. Louis, and author of When Anxiety Makes You Angry
“Katie Krimer would be the first to say that she didn’t ‘invent’ many of the ideas in her book, but might have to follow some of her own principles to admit what will be obvious to any reader: She is a wonderful writer with a lucid style and the ability to synthesize numerous concepts to make eradicating negative self-talk an approachable, practical, enjoyable, nuanced, and non-corny enterprise!”~Michael Dulchin, MD
—Michael Dulchin, MD, assistant clinical professor of psychiatry at New York University Langone Medical Center, and cofounder of both Union Square Practice and Sportstrata
“This book uses irreverence, wisdom, and behavioral science to help you break patterns of negative self-talk and take back your life!”~Dennis Tirch, PhD
—Dennis Tirch, PhD, author of The Compassionate-Mind Guide to Overcoming Anxiety, and founder and director of The Center for Compassion Focused Therapy