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The Mindful Path through Shyness

The Mindful Path through Shyness
How Mindfulness and Compassion Can Help Free You from Social Anxiety, Fear, and Avoidance




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ISBN: 9781572246508
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About the Book

Shyness often helps protect us from the judgments and resentments of others, but once you get in the habit of avoiding social situations, you can become stuck in a cycle of avoidance that can be difficult to escape. Ready to let go of shyness and make stronger connections with others? The Mindful Path Through Shyness shows you how.

This guide uses techniques from mindfulness-based stress reduction and cognitive behavioral therapy to help you cultivate awareness of your own thoughts so that you can act with more wisdom and compassion toward yourself. Over time, you will be able to free yourself of the old mental habits of self-consciousness and self-blame, and replace them with new habits that foster confidence and joy.

A heartfelt and practical guide to. transforming one's relationship to social fears and inhibitions.
-Zindel V. Segal, Ph.D., author of The Mindful Way Through Depression


Steve Flowers (Author)
Steve Flowers, MFT, conducts mindfulness-based stress reduction online programs and is the founder and director of the mindfulness-based stress reduction clinic at Enloe Medical Center in Chico, CA. He also works in private practice as a... Read more

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Jeffrey Brantley (Foreword by)
Jeffrey Brantley, MD, is a consulting associate in the Duke University department of psychiatry, and founder and director of the Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) program at Duke Integrative Medicine. He has represented the Duke MBSR program... Read more

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"A heartfelt and practical guide to the application of mindfulness for approaching, resting within, and ultimately transforming one’s relationship to social fears and inhibitions."
—Zindel V. Segal, PhD, author of The Mindful Way Through Depression

"Steve Flowers has written a warm, accessible, funny, and practical book to help people use mindfulness to reduce problematic shyness. With great good humor, he also shares personal experiences, challenges, and insights that helped him overcome his own shyness. His book is a valuable contribution to the self-help literature on shyness, revealing how shyness is adaptive, how it can turn into a barrier to achieving your goals, and how it can become another passing experience that you can notice, accept, and then let go, so that it doesn’t diminish your quality of life."
—Lynne Henderson, PhD, faculty member at Stanford University

"The Mindful Path Through Shyness draws on transformative meditations and psychological wisdom. The anecdotes and guided practices provide a wonderful support, not only for those who suffer from anxiety, but for all who wish to live an openhearted and mindful life."
—Tara Brach, PhD, author of Radical Acceptance

"The Mindful Path Through Shyness is a generous offering of the powerful and practical tools of mindfulness practice, specifically geared to the situation of those who are living with debilitating shyness and social anxiety disorder."
—Sharon Salzberg, author of Lovingkindness

"Reader, in your hands is a beautifully crafted elucidation of the healing power of mindfulness for catalyzing a powerful, positive shift in your relationship to shyness and social anxiety. Clear, kind, and wise, it is a true call to remember the fullness that we are behind our symptoms and suffering. Eminently practical, the use of metaphor is striking and revelatory. Here’s one: ‘If shyness is a wilderness, mindfulness is your compass.’ Steve Flowers has walked in this wilderness; he has found the trail. With tremendous care and attention, he shows us a way through."
—Saki F. Santorelli, EdD, MA, associate professor of medicine at the University of Massachusetts Medical School and author of Heal Thyself

"Shyness is more than a social inconvenience. It can be a debilitating process that keeps us from making the intimate connections with others that is biologically and psychologically necessary for our well-being. Steve Flowers uses his considerable skill and wisdom to illuminate this dilemma with the light of mindfulness practice. He presents compassionate insight and practical guidance that gently lead us into an authentic ease and confidence in our social surroundings."
—William Martin, author of The Parent’s Tao Te Ching

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I picked up Steve Flowers The Mindful Path through Shyness: How Mindfulness Can Help You from Social Anxiety, Fear & Avoidance wanting to help with my shyness and being myself around people. He has been deeply invested in meditation practice since 1974 and has his own office doing private practice as a psychotherapist. Also, the director of the mindfulness and compassion program that based off the book. I feel that he qualifies for this topic because he has been doing that type of stuff for a long time and I thinks he knows what he is talking about. His colleague Jeffrey Brantley expresses in the “Forward” that “Steve uses skillful and entertaining personal examples and revelations to guide the reader through basic concepts such as the nature of shyness and mindfulness” (25). I was very curious to see how this book is going to relate to my own problems. The book itself is broken into 3 parts and in each of those parts, they have two sections each. At the end of each section is exercises and you can write down notes on how you felt about it. Some of the sections are: The nature of shyness, Mindfulness, and healing, and embracing the nonverbal world. Each section includes a quote at the beginning to connect to the topic that going to be discussed. A little information that on that topic, some personal stories, then come to the practices at the end. Flowers goes deep into the personal examples of shyness and social anxiety. The details were very vivid, and it brought up some personal memories of myself and it felt like I was in that situation. He goes in depth about what he goes through in “Social Situations.” I was going to lean that my book had offered different types of exercises, but there was one thing at end of each of that that was predictable and pretty much expected: to have a journal and write your thoughts about that exercise. There was some that you couldn’t express in words, just let yourself be in that moment of when you are done with the exercises. A reviewer on Amazon: stated, “Overall it’s a good book for decreasing anxiety and some of the mindfulness practices are similar to meditation practices in other books. I basically think it’s a book on meditation.” I somewhat agree with this statement because it is a book based base off helping people who have shyness or anxiety, and sometimes the exercises can be repetitive: especially the ones that involve breathing. There one thing that Steve Flowers express towards the end of the book: “Every human being will always have room for many kinds of improvements; we’re all imperfect” (518). This is very important to know because it true, no one is the perfect human and can get help. If you can appreciate the many personal connections and the exercise it provides then —the book a 4/5.