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Stop Walking on Eggshells

Stop Walking on Eggshells
Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder
Second Edition




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ISBN: 9781572246904
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About the Book

Do you feel manipulated, controlled, or lied to? Are you the focus of intense, violent, and irrational rages? Do you feel as though you are constantly trying to avoid confrontation?

If you answered yes to any of these questions, you should remember this: It's not your fault. And you're not alone. In fact, the person you care about may have traits associated with borderline personality disorder (BPD), such as emotion dysregulation, impulsive behavior, unstable sense of self, and difficulty with interpersonal relationships. No matter how much you want to be there for your loved one, at times it can feel like you are walking on eggshells.

This compassionate guide will enable you to:

  • Make sense out of the chaos
  • Stand up for yourself and assert your needs
  • Defuse arguments and conflicts
  • Protect yourself and others from violent behavior

Stop Walking on Eggshells has already helped nearly half a million people with friends and family members suffering from BPD understand this destructive disorder, set boundaries, and help their loved ones stop relying on dangerous BPD behaviors. This fully revised edition has been updated with the very latest BPD research and includes coping and communication skills you can use to stabilize your relationship with the BPD sufferer in your life.


Paul T. T. Mason (Author)
Paul T. Mason, MS, is a seasoned health care executive currently serving as vice president of Ascension Medical Group in Wisconsin. His research on borderline personality disorder (BPD) has been published in the Journal of Clinical Psychology, and... Read more

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Randi Kreger (Author)
Randi Kreger is author of The Stop Walking on Eggshells Workbook and The Essential Family Guide to Borderline Personality Disorder. Her website,, offers material... Read more

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"Stop Walking on Eggshells makes good on its promise to restore the lives of people in close relationships with someone diagnosed with borderline personality disorder (BPD). It is a rich guide to understanding and coping with the reactions aroused in others by troubling BPD behaviors that negatively impact relationships. Readers will find this book very useful and beneficial."
—Nina W. Brown, EdD, professor and Eminent Scholar at Old Dominion University in Norfolk, VA, author of Children of the Self-Absorbed

"This book is the absolute go-to guide for my clients who are dealing with a loved one with borderline personality disorder. Readable and thorough, it strikes a perfect balance of practical advice and emotional sensitivity. This book has helped so many people break through their sense of confusion and isolation by helping them to name, understand, and respond to the difficulties of this complex and misunderstood disorder."
—Daniel E. Mattila, M.Div., LCSW

"This book is urgently needed now that a National Institutes of Health study shows that 6 percent of the general population has borderline personality disorder (BPD). I constantly get requests from families needing resources on BPD, and I recommend Stop Walking On Eggshells almost every time. This second edition is really easy to read and packed with even more useful tips for family members in distress."
—Bill Eddy, LCSW, attorney, mediator, clinical social worker, and author of High Conflict People in Legal Disputes and Splitting

"Amazingly, Stop Walking On Eggshells not only teaches readers how to recognize the signs of borderline personality disorder, it also shows how they can make life and relationship decisions based on what they want and need instead of decisions controlled by the illness."
—Julie A. Fast, author of Loving Someone with Bipolar Disorder

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This book has helped me so much, I hardly know where to start to thank Randi Kreger for her efforts and fantastic writing skills. Without this book...I would still be floundering around and wondering...What, How, Why, etc.! Totally recommend this book to anyone that has a BP in their life.
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This book does nothing but portray people with BPD in a negative light and encourages tough love, which is one of the worst approaches you can take towards handling issues.
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This book was recommended to me by my therapist, who believed that someone in my life may suffer from BPD. By the end of the first chapter, I had begun to realize that I myself may suffer from the disorder. Contrary to what some of the other reviews say about the book, at every step the authors have been careful to state that the BP as they call them, the person suffering from the disorder, is simply seeking to meet internal needs that have gone unmet for the majority of their life. The authors do a great job of bringing light to the experience of the BP, stating over and over that their intentions are not malicious but rather are misguided. That they don't know any other way to handle the fear, stress, and anxiety that they experience. Further, the authors say over and over again that the BP lashes out intermittently, but that this sense of anger and fear is something that they experience internally about themselves almost constantly. In other words, the authors make it very clear that the BP is just as much a victim of the disorder as the people around them who are affected by their behavior. This book is written particularly to support the friends and families of BPs. Although I may be someone who suffers from the disorder, I can't put this book down because of the insightfulness of the information it provides. I count myself as extremely fortunate, because I appear to be a high-functioning BP, which is to say I fall in a category of people who are unlikely to ever get help with the disorder. Due to a combination of being separated from my family as a matter of establishing healthy boundaries and being introduced to this book which does such a phenomenal job of giving understanding to both the BP and their loved ones, I have a clear path forward, beginning with speaking with a professional about being assessed and diagnosed. Reading this book has given me a sense of hope in a time in my life where I felt the most hopeless I've ever been. Yes, it is tough to have somebody set firm boundaries and stick to them, and yes, when it happens I want to lash out against the people that do it. But if it was a catalyst for my seeking the help that I needed, then it was all worthwhile. Thank you for your work. I am eternally grateful.