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Disarming the Narcissist

Disarming the Narcissist
Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed
Second Edition




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Do you know someone who is overly arrogant, shows an extreme lack of empathy, or exhibits an inflated sense of entitlement? Do they exploit others, or engage in magical thinking? These are all traits of narcissistic personality disorder, and when it comes to dealing with narcissists, it can be difficult to get your point across. So how do you handle the narcissistic people in your life? You might interact with them in social or professional settings, and you might even love one—so ignoring them isn’t really a practical solution. They're frustrating, and maybe even intimidating, but ultimately, you need to find a way of communicating effectively with them.

Disarming the Narcissist, Second Edition, will show you how to move past the narcissist's defenses using compassionate, empathetic communication. You'll learn how narcissists view the world, how to navigate their coping styles, and why, oftentimes, it's sad and lonely being a narcissist. By learning to anticipate and avoid certain hot-button issues, you'll be able to relate to narcissists without triggering aggression. By validating some common narcissistic concerns, you'll also find out how to be heard in conversation with a narcissist.

This book will help you learn to meet your own needs while side-stepping unproductive power struggles and senseless arguments with someone who is at the center of his or her own universe. This new edition also includes new chapters on dealing with narcissistic women, aggressive and abusive narcissists, strategies for safety, and the link between narcissism and sex addiction.

Finally, you'll learn how to set limits with your narcissist and when it's time to draw the line on unacceptable behavior.


Wendy T. Behary (Author)
Wendy T. Behary, LCSW, is founder and clinical director of the Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey and a faculty member at the Cognitive Therapy Center and Schema Therapy Institute of New York. She is also a distinguished... Read more

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Jeffrey Young (Foreword by)
Jeffrey Young, PhD, is author of Schema Therapy, and founder and director of the Schema Therapy Institute of New York.

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Daniel J. Siegel (Preface by)
Daniel J. Siegel, MD, is executive director of the Mindsight Institute and associate clinical professor of psychiatry at the University of California, Los Angeles School of Medicine. He is author of The Developing Mind, The Mindful Brain, and other... Read more

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“Wendy Behary has dedicated decades to understanding narcissism, both as a clinician and a scholar. In Disarming the Narcissist, she distills these hard-won insights into a very readable form. This book is a terrific resource for those looking to better understand narcissism.”
-W. Keith Campbell, PhD, professor in the department of psychology at the University of Georgia and author of The Narcissism Epidemic

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Disarming the Narcissist is an excellent book that is an easy read, giving detailed explanations of Narcissism and identifying schemas and coping mechanisms of those that live or deal with a Narcissist.
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This book awakened awareness in me regarding my own narcissism, along with those tendencies in others of whom I am in relationship. The practical exercises offered gave me hope for a healthier life and more caring relationships with loved ones. I actually bought it so I would know how to deal with a relative, and ended up learning how to interact with many people in my life, as well as monitor my own behavior.
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I bought this book in the hope that I could gain some insight into why I have been behaving the way I have. It hasn't disappointed. While I found the practical examples of dealing with a narcissist to be a little unrealistic (they certainly wouldn't work on me), the explanation of the reasons why we have these character traits that just "don't feel right" are worth every cent. I cant recommend it highly enough to those seeking an answer for their own issues that they wish to try and define somehow without resorting to expensive and sometimes average therapy. The section where Schema identification is discussed just opened my eyes. I see things much more clearly. I am not fixed. Probably never will be "fixed" but at least I can develop some of my own tools and "feel" when the NPD tendencies are about to take over. See yourself and others as the child and insight is within reach. Thank you Wendy, Jeffrey and Daniel. Good luck to all. Simon
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First I Would like to say Disarming The Narcissist Is A Very Great Book With lots of Info And Self Help Ideas I want To Say Thank you to Say to Wendy Behary I was living with A Narcissist And Really Needed this Book And I had no way of getting this book And I sent An email to Wendy telling her what was going on in My life And That I really would like to have her Book I had no means of getting it So I got A email back from Wendy And She said I hope this helps you And She had The Book sent to me as a gift Well I am no longer living there I got Out And The Book I took it to our library And I just Pay It Forward So Thank you