“There is nothing that will ever change what happened…there is no place to turn to. These experiences have invaded and ruined every aspect of my life. There is nothing anyone can do.” —Client in therapy
A normal problem-solving mode of mind draws clients into the idea that where they are isn’t desirable and they need to be somewhere else. Jobs need to be changed, relationships fixed. More often than not, therapists go along, but this view directs attention toward getting, not the dynamics of doing.
If all living creatures in the universe were gone, there would be nothing left of importance. Pollution? Without life, it would not exist as a “problem.” The river does not care. Death? Were the sun to die away, the rock would stand unconcerned.
We are not who we say we are—snippets and flickers woven into a shredded blanket of “me” that we defend at all costs. The story of who we are (“I am ___(insert content and evaluations here)” is just that: a story.