Growing up, I had always longed for a sense of home. Not just a place to live, but more of a place in which I could be safe, loved, and accepted. I was always a shy, awkward kid, who always felt at least ten years older than I actually was, which made making friends with kids my age very challenging.
Most people want to get rid of their anxiety, and teens are no exception: “If I didn’t feel worried and scared, there’s so much I’d do.” Rather than trying to dispute or eliminate uncomfortable thoughts and feelings as a prerequisite to reaching our goals, it can be helpful to instead reframe anxiety as a source of important information about who we are and what matters to us.
The word “resilience” has come to mean many things to many people, both in the science arena and in our common layperson’s terms. So, how do we know we are really working on resilience with our teen clients?