Disentangling from Emotionally Immature People
Avoid Emotional Traps, Stand Up for Your Self, and Transform Your Relationships as an Adult Child of Emotionally Immature Parents
Published by: New Harbinger Publications
Imprint: New Harbinger Publications
248 Pages, 7.50 x 9.00 x 0.54 in
- Published: July 2023
From the author of Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, this handbook offers essential, practical solutions to help you “disentangle” from emotionally immature people, stand up for your self, and transform your relationships.
If you grew up with an emotionally immature, unavailable, or selfish parent, you may recall your childhood as a time when your emotional needs were not met or dismissed—and you may have lingering feelings of anger, loneliness, betrayal, and abandonment as a result. As an adult, you have fought hard to establish your own sense of self, and heal the invisible wounds caused by your upbringing.
But what about other emotionally immature people (EIP) in your life? EIPs are often unpredictable, volatile, and difficult to handle. They tend to be me-first people, with little regard for others. They may not respect you as an individual—which can be isolating, hurtful, and lonely. As an adult child of an emotionally immature parent (ACEIP), you may be particularly vulnerable to EIPs. But you are not powerless! If you’re tired of being emotionally hijacked by EIPs, this handbook can help you avoid common traps, build confidence, and stand strong in your self.
In this must-have guide, author Lindsay Gibson provides everyday solutions to help you manage relationships with any emotionally immature person. You’ll find practical insights and explorations into the most common challenges ACEIPs face, and practical guidance to help set boundaries and establish healthier relationships. You’ll also learn to handle difficult interactions with EIPs, understand their responses, and transform your relationships to build a happier life.
It’s time to disentangle from EIPs! As an ACEIP, you have spent a lifetime compensating for others’ behavior and putting your needs last. With this handbook, you’ll find the information you need to understand how EIPs function, shift your own perspective regarding these relationships, and stand up for your self without guilt, shame, or fear.
“In these pages, Lindsay Gibson gets to the heart of what we need to know when we are caught in cycles of relational pain. Whether with a parent or a partner, Gibson helps us identify our ‘healing fantasy,’ the hope that we will find that ‘elusive closeness’ with a person who isn’t able to connect emotionally. Gibson’s gentle guidance reduces the shame we may feel from repeated relational despair.”
—Kelly McDaniel, LPC, NCC, author of Ready to Heal and Mother Hunger ~Kelly McDaniel, LPC, NCC
“The ultimate dilemma faced by adult children of emotionally immature parents (ACEIPs) is the choice between loyalty to self or loyalty to family. Lindsay Gibson’s gentle, compassionate description of emotionally immature behavior resolves that dilemma so ACEIPs can unlearn unhelpful patterns and set boundaries. This book offers reflective prompts and useful skills that guide the reader to reconnect with their inner knowing and move forward feeling more satisfied in relationships.”
—Laura Reagan, LCSW-C, integrative trauma therapist in the Washington, DC Metro Area; host of Therapy Chat Podcast; and founder of Trauma Therapist Network ~Laura Reagan, LCSW-C
“Once again, Lindsay Gibson provides a fantastic and uniquely comprehensive book dealing with the emotionally immature: parents, people, and parts of ourselves, too. Clear explanations and thoughtful exercises offer readers the opportunity to understand and reflect on the multifaceted concept of emotional immaturity and the tools and strategies needed to disentangle, grieve, and heal. The workbook format is a user-friendly resource for therapists to use with clients. Rich with practical information.”
—Judith Ruskay Rabinor, PhD, clinical psychologist; writing coach; and author of the memoir, The Girl in the Red Boots ~Judith Ruskay Rabinor, PhD
“In Disentangling from Emotionally Immature People, I was blown over by the extraordinary number of coping strategies we carry into adulthood when hurt as children by neglectful, irresponsible, or emotionally unavailable parents. With compassion and deep understanding, Lindsay C. Gibson describes how to recognize emotional immaturity, and provides thoughtful exercises to aid in healing. Highest praise for this powerful book. I will recommend it to all my friends!”
—Kim Fairley, author of Swimming for My Life and Shooting Out the Lights ~Kim Fairley
“This book will join Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents as one of my most highly recommended resources. Every page is filled with warmth, compassion, and understanding that lets readers know they are seen and understood. The entire work is a treasure trove, filled from cover to cover with usable tips, strategies, and opportunities to reflect and personalize each lesson. I am delighted to have it on my bookshelf.”
—Amy Marlow-MaCoy, MEd, LPC, clinician, trainer, and author of The Clinician’s Guide to Treating Adult Children of Narcissists and The Gaslighting Recovery Workbook ~Amy Marlow-MaCoy, MEd, LPC
“Thanks to psychologist Lindsay Gibson’s books, ACEIPs finally have a reliable place to receive understanding and validation. In this powerhouse follow-up to her best seller, Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, Gibson takes readers on the next phase of the healing journey by addressing answers to some of readers’ most common questions. An indispensable book for anyone struggling in close relationships with emotionally immature people.”
—Yael Schonbrun, PhD, psychologist; assistant professor at Brown University; cohost of the Psychologists Off the Clock podcast; and author of Work, Parent, Thrive ~Yael Schonbrun, PhD