Insecure in Love
About the Book
Has your romantic partner called you clingy, insecure, desperate, or jealous? No one wants to admit that they possess these qualities; but if you find yourself constantly on the alert, anxious, or worried when it comes to your significant other, you may suffer from anxious attachment, a fear of abandonment that is often rooted in early childhood experiences.
In Insecure in Love, you'll learn how to overcome attachment anxiety using compassionate self-awareness, a technique that can help you recognize your negative thoughts or unhealthy behavior patterns and respond to them in a nurturing way-rather than beating yourself up. You'll also learn how insecurity can negatively affect healthy dialog between you and your partner (or potential partners) and develop the skills needed to stop you from reverting back to old patterns of neediness and possessiveness.
If you suffer from anxious attachment, you probably know that you need to change, and yet you have remained stuck. With compassionate self-awareness, you can successfully explore old anxiety-perpetuating perceptions and habits without being overwhelmed or paralyzed by them. By understanding the psychological factors at the root of your attachment anxiety, you will learn to cultivate secure, healthy relationships to last a lifetime.
If you're ready to stop getting stuck in the same hurtful relationship patterns and finally break the cycle of heartache, this book can show you how to get the love you deserve-and keep it!
Books by Leslie Becker-Phelps
-Eric Maisel, PhD, author of Rethinking Depression and The Van Gogh Blues
“Drawing on the latest scientific research but written in an entertaining and accessible manner, this book will help you understand why you're insecure in your relationships. It will also help you heal, so that you can have healthier relationships with others, and perhaps more importantly, with yourself.”
-Kristin Neff, PhD, author of Self-Compassion and associate professor of human development and culture at the University of Texas
-David Richo, author of How to Be an Adult in Love
-Guy Winch, PhD, author of Emotional First Aid and The Squeaky Wheel
-Diane Handlin, PhD, founder and executive director of the Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction Center, NJ
-Michelle Skeen, PsyD, author of The Critical Partner and host of Relationships 2.0 on KCAA 1050-AM
“If you're single, you'll discover how to choose a partner who is truly available for a connected, supportive, nurturing relationship-someone who accepts and loves you for you. If you're in a relationship, you will gain insight into your partner's behavior and motivation and discover how to create a loving connection in which you both feel truly valued and cared for.
“Filled with relevant, real-life examples and powerful exercises, Insecure in Love will help you leave your self-criticism and sabotaging behaviors behind and develop true self-compassion. No matter how much you've struggled in the past, you will finally understand how to create happy, healthy relationships and experience true, lasting love.”
-Mali Apple and Joe Dunn, authors of The Soulmate Experience: A Practical Guide to Creating Extraordinary Relationships
-Randi Gunther, PhD, author of Relationship Saboteurs
“Motivated by her professional interest in humans and attachment theory, Dr. Becker-Phelps has developed a solid resource for men and women to improve their lives and their relationships. Insecure in Love is a clear and comprehensive guide for self-understanding and self-compassion in which readers are encouraged to explore themselves and complete step-by-step exercises. The end result will be greater understanding of your relationships and a healthier, more secure self!”
-Kathryn Cortese, MSW, LCSW, ACSW, co-owner and president of G?rze-Salucore Eating Disorders Resource Catalogue
-Daniel Goldberg, PhD, director at the New Jersey Couples Training Program in the Center for Psychotherapy and Psychoanalysis of New Jersey